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Introduction
St. Mary is not a peripheral figure in the Coptic tradition — she is the most venerated of the saints, the Theotokos (God-bearer), and the greatest model of the Christian life. To understand her is to understand the Faith itself.
But she is also frequently misunderstood — both over-exalted (as if she were divine) and under-honored (as if she were merely a vessel). This lesson seeks the biblical and patristic middle ground.
Her Virtues
1. Humility
Mary calls herself “the handmaid of the Lord” (Luke 1:38) — not a queen, not an empress of heaven. The first virtue of the most exalted human being is self-lowering before God.
“For he has looked on the humble estate of his servant.” — Luke 1:48
Her humility is not self-deprecation — it is clear-eyed truth. She knows who God is and therefore knows her proper place before Him.
2. Submission / Obedience
Her fiat — “Let it be to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38) — is the supreme act of submission in human history. It is the reversal of Eve’s self-assertion: where Eve said “I will take,” Mary says “Let it be done to me.”
“Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.” — Luke 1:38
Her obedience was not passive compliance — it was active, costly trust. She knew what her yes would cost. She said yes anyway.
The Annunciation (Luke 1:26–38)
The angel Gabriel appeared to Mary in Nazareth. His greeting — “Rejoice, O favored one, the Lord is with you!” — disturbed her. She “pondered what sort of greeting this might be” (v. 29).
She asked one question: “How will this be, since I am a virgin?” (v. 34). This is the question of a person who trusts God but seeks to understand His way. The angel answered: the Holy Spirit will overshadow her.
Her response: the fiat. No further questions. Belief and obedience.
The Visitation (Luke 1:39–56)
Immediately after the Annunciation, Mary “arose and went with haste” to visit her cousin Elizabeth in the hill country of Judea. She was pregnant. She traveled a long distance — possibly 80–100 miles — to serve another.
The Magnificat (Luke 1:46–55) — her prayer upon arriving — is one of the greatest hymns of Scripture. It is the prayer of a woman who has received everything and gives all glory to God:
“My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior.” — Luke 1:46–47
The Magi (Matthew 2:1–12)
The wise men from the East came seeking “the king of the Jews.” They found the child “with Mary his mother” (Matt 2:11). She is present but in the background — as always, the one who points to her Son, not herself.
The Wedding at Cana (John 2:1–11)
The first miracle of Jesus — at the instigation of His mother:
“When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’” — John 2:3
Jesus’ response: “My hour has not yet come” (v. 4). Yet He acted. Mary’s intercession brought forward the hour of His first sign.
Her instruction to the servants — which is her instruction to all of us:
“Do whatever he tells you.” — John 2:5
This is the fullest expression of St. Mary’s role: she does not draw attention to herself. She points to her Son and says: do whatever He tells you. She is the supreme catechist.
Theotokos: The Theology
Theotokos (Greek: Θεοτόκος) — literally “God-bearer” or “Mother of God.” This title was formally defined at the Council of Ephesus (431 AD), one of the most important ecumenical councils.
The Nestorian Controversy
Nestorius, Bishop of Constantinople, objected to the title “Theotokos,” preferring “Christotokos” (Christ-bearer). His argument: Mary gave birth to the human nature of Christ, not to the divine nature.
St. Cyril of Alexandria’s Response
St. Cyril argued (and the Council agreed) that the two natures of Christ — divine and human — are united in one Person (hypostasis). Therefore, Mary bore a person, not merely a nature. And that person is God the Son.
To say Mary is not the Mother of God is to imply that the human Christ is a different person from the divine Christ — which is Nestorianism.
The Council decreed: Mary is rightly called Theotokos — God-bearer. Not because she is the source of the divine nature, but because she bore the one Person who is God the Son.
“Theotokos is not a title of Mary so much as it is a title of Christ. It confesses that the one born of her is fully and truly God.” — St. Cyril of Alexandria
Intercession: Theology and Practice
The Biblical Basis
“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” — James 5:16
If the prayers of the righteous are powerful and effective, then the prayers of the most righteous human being who ever lived — the one who bore God in her womb — are powerful indeed.
“He is not God of the dead, but of the living.” — Matthew 22:32
The saints are not dead — they are alive in Christ. Their prayers continue. Their intercession before the throne of God is a participation in Christ’s own intercession (Hebrews 7:25).
The Coptic Practice
The Coptic Church prays to St. Mary at every Liturgy — in the Theotokia (hymns to the Theotokos) and in the Lobsh (devotional prayers). This is not worship of Mary; it is asking a friend of God to pray for us.
”Do Whatever He Tells You” — The Role of Intercession
Mary’s intercession at Cana did not override Christ’s will — it aligned with it. She brought a need to her Son. He responded according to His wisdom and timing. This is all intercession is: bringing our needs to God through the prayers of those who are close to Him.
Fasting Exercise
The Coptic Church maintains fasting in honor of the Theotokos — particularly the Fast of the Apostles (which includes her feast) and the Fast of the Virgin (the fast leading up to her Assumption/Dormition on August 22).
Consider: during this lesson, commit to one day of fasting in honor of St. Mary — in gratitude for her yes, which made our salvation possible.
Reflection Questions
- How does Mary’s fiat challenge your own obedience to God?
- “Do whatever He tells you” — is there something He has told you that you have not yet done?
- What does it mean to you that the Mother of God is also your intercessor?
- How does the theology of the Theotokos deepen your understanding of who Jesus is?